Gay BDSM
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Gay BDSM and leather: a little history, the roles and codes you'll come across, and staying safe when you meet other men in Nevada.
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Gay men have shaped the BDSM scene enormously. The leather clubs that grew up after the Second World War gave the lifestyle much of its protocol, its look and its tradition of mentoring – and a good deal of that culture is still very much alive.
Where it comes from
Leather, briefly
What began in motorcycle clubs moved into bars and private gatherings, and by the 1970s had its own codes – the hanky code among them – and its own etiquette. The stricter traditions of that era are what people mean today by “Old Guard”. Gay BDSM now runs from formal leather protocol to relaxed, playful kink, and most men find their own place somewhere along it.
What you'll see
Roles and codes
- Leathermen
- Men for whom leather is identity as much as clothing, often with traditions of protocol and mentoring.
- Pups and handlers
- Pup play – one man taking on a puppy's character with a handler or owner. Playful and physical. See pet play.
- Tops, bottoms and versatile
- Who does what in a scene, said plainly on a profile.
- The hanky code
- Coloured handkerchiefs in a back pocket, from the 1970s leather scene. See the A–Z.
On your profile
Finding your corner
- Say your role plainly: top, bottom, versatile, Dom, sub, switch.
- List the scenes you're into – leather, rope, pup play, impact.
- Be honest about experience; beginners get a warm welcome from the right men.
- Choose Meet LGBT & Couples when you join so your matches start in the right place.
Man to man
Meeting safely
- Members see a username and a nearest town – never your real name or address – which helps if you're not out.
- Meet in public first, even when you're both sure.
- Let a friend know your plans: the safe call works the same for everyone.
- Check for the verified badge, or ask for the free ID or video check.
- Consent rules don't relax because you're both men.
Gay BDSM questions
Straight Talking.
Is bdsm-nevada.com for gay and bisexual men too?
Yes. Men looking for men, women looking for women and everyone in between are welcome – choose Meet LGBT & Couples to start.
What is pup play?
One man plays a puppy – eager, physical, often wordless – with a handler or owner looking after him. It's especially popular in the gay scene.
Do I have to be into leather?
No. Leather is one tradition among many.
Leather, rope or just curious
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