Fetish
Your Fetish, Understood.
What a fetish is, the ones people talk about most – leather, latex, feet, uniforms and more – and how to bring yours up with someone new.
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A fetish is a strong attraction to something specific – a material, a body part, an object, a situation. It can be the main event or one ingredient among many. Fetishes overlap with BDSM a great deal, but plenty of fetishists aren't into power exchange at all.
The familiar ones
Fetishes people talk about.
Leather
— The look, the smell, the creak – and a whole culture behind it.
In the A–Z →Latex & rubber
— Shine, tightness and the feel of a second skin.
In the A–Z →Feet
— Admiring, massaging, worshipping. A gentle favourite.
In the A–Z →Uniforms
— Authority made visible: officers, crew, medics.
In the A–Z →Boots & heels
— Height, sound and attitude, often tied to dominance.
Zentai
— Full-body suits, anonymity included.
In the A–Z →Sensation
— Ice, feathers, wax, fingernails, warmth.
In the A–Z →Role-play
— Characters and scenarios, agreed in advance.
In the A–Z →Being watched
— Exhibitionism, with an audience who chose to be there.
In the A–Z →Bringing it up
Raising your fetish
Pick your moment – a conversation that's already going well, not the first line. Keep it light and specific, and leave room for a no.
- I saw leather on your profile – it's a big one for me too. What got you into it?
- Full disclosure: I have a thing for feet. Is that something you'd be open to talking about?
- Latex is one of my favourite things. How do you feel about it?
Fetish meets BDSM
When the two combine
Fetishes and BDSM mix easily. Boots and heels sit naturally in a femdom scene, latex in bondage, uniforms in role-play. If you'd like your fetish to be part of a dynamic, say so during the negotiation – it's as much a part of the conversation as limits and safewords. The Doms & subs page explains how power exchange works.
Good manners
Fetish etiquette
- Ask before sending pictures of your fetish – every time.
- One no is enough.
- A fetish isn't a personality. Show interest in the whole person.
- Exhibitionism needs onlookers who chose to watch.
Fetish questions
Nothing To Hide.
Is it normal to have a fetish?
Plenty of people have one, and they vary enormously. What matters is that everything you do with yours involves consenting adults.
Do I need to be into BDSM to have a fetish?
No. Many fetishes have nothing to do with pain or power.
How do I let people know?
Choose it among your interests when you join, and mention it on your profile in the plain word people would search for.
Whatever your thing
Find Someone Into It Too.
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